Life Hacks for NEW Single Mamas

I’ve been thinking about my experience of doing this a lot lately. Sometimes I think back to those first days, after coming home from the hospital, and I’m amazed at how this entire experience has evolved and moved me, deeply, on so many levels. I was alone throughout the entirety of my pregnancy; lived by myself, went to most of my doctor’s appointments by myself, save for the few times I was joined by an acquaintance who offered to be present mostly out of pity for me (I think). Things were very emotional for me; it was the deep of autumn,…

Why Don’t Men Do Kindness More?

WARNING: Death and Highly Distressing Images (if you click on the US Uncut link below) Last week, I saw a US Uncut story about the recent strike on Syrian civilians (mostly children) that happened while the world was distracted by the US Republican Convention and the theatrical plagiarism of Donald Trump’s wife. As a friend of mine said recently, “If all you care about right now is plagiarism, you are part of the problem.” Mass Distraction. Artfully distracted we are. Too busy to care. Too preoccupied to notice. Too afraid of our own emotions to lift the veil of materialism and…

Interviews with Rad Single Moms (1.)

So – I decided to start conducting a series of structured qualitative interviews with other single moms who have done/are doing this #SingleMomLife and are doing really well. We all need sources of inspiration and I think this series is going to be very powerful in that regard. I’ve endeavoured to cover a variety of topics with each interviewee that explore things of concern to most of us in a deep, and very real, very now sense. My intention is to think about all of these interviews and their responses (including whatever discussion happens in the comments), and do follow-up blog…

Do Kids Hold Women Artists Back?

According to the artist, Marina Abramović, if a female artist has kids, she is not free and her career will be stunted. That is, she will be a failure and not succeed in the art world. Uhm… calling all successful female artists with children to stand up, please! (There are a LOT. If you are one, feel free to comment on this post as it’d be great to get some feedback from you on this.) Here’s what she said in her interview with Tagesspiegel: “The artist explained to the newspaper that she never wanted children, even at an early age. “I…

Policy and the Institutionalised Hatred of Women

If you’re looking for a good (?) read that will fire your pistons over morning coffee, check out HuffPost’s piece Bill That Lets Bosses Fire Single Women for Getting Pregnant. ‘Sounds interesting!’ you say. Mmhm. Indeed. It basically says that US Republicans are pushing new legislation that will serve to undermine same-sex marriage laws and effectively protect those that discriminate against homosexuals and single mothers (because single mothers are not ‘in wedlock’ according to the fundamentalist ‘Christian’ right. ‘Christian’ is in quotes here because Jesus was arguably less judgemental and didn’t persecute people. So. There’s that. But ya know. Whatever.) Here’s what the…

Some Realness

Here’s some realness about single motherhood for you: I have the flu. Anyone who is not a single parent will not understand the gravity of this statement in the context of having a small crawling baby to look after. Only reason I’m even able to write this is because I forced myself to take the wee babe to nursery via taxi (which was a bumpy ride and quite expensive if you also factor in me forgetting my keys at the nursery and having to go back to get them). I tried sleeping but can’t because my body is so accustomed…

Searching for a Community

I am not alone. I kept telling myself this, and was reminded of it thanks to a baby shower gift from a friend – a small clay pocket stone, thumbprint indenting it with the phrase ‘You are not alone’ stamped in the centre with aquamarine glaze. I sometimes carried it with me, but usually I just left it on my desk, hoping that it’d vibe up the energy in my domestic space, in my life, and in my heart. I am not sad. I was broken-hearted. But I am healing. I’m a white (privileged) able-bodied woman in my 30s, so…